For all my friends who are guys reading this, don't. This is not a guy post. I can already tell you this is going to be a hard read for you. Give up now guys. Besides being disappointed in me, you'll just hate it. :)
A few years back, Christine and I were watching Sense and Sensibilities. I was trying to be the good guy and watch a chick flick with her. About twenty minutes in, I couldn't stand it any longer. It was painful to watch. I stood up and with a giant groan said "Ahhh! I can't stand it any longer!" I don't think Christine was surprised. I went into another room. After a few minutes, guilt got the better of me and so I returned to endure the movie some more. After another few minutes, I apologized to Christine and dismissed myself for good. I physically could not stay in the same room with that movie playing. Even now I get the edgies. Christine was relieved because she could finally watch the movie without me nervously shifting and fidgeting every minute.
And so, when another Jane Austin movie came out, "Pride and Prejudice" with Kiera Knightly, Christine said she was surprised that I wanted to watch it. Something intrigued me about it though. Maybe it was because of the movie "You've got Mail." I guess I wanted to figure out all the references to Elizabeth and the incomparable Mr. Darcy.
Long story short, I absolutely loved the movie. In my mind, it's one of the most beautiful and insightful stories ever told and one of the most beautiful movies ever made. It reminds me a lot of a Sydney Pollock movie, Out of Africa, Jeremiah Johnson, The Way we Were. Tragic, but in this case, with a happy ending.
Today Amanda asked me what was so great about it. I'm no movie or literary critic but I know what it means to me and told her we'd watch together and I'd tell her what I thought is so powerful about the story.
I think the movie is all about love. It's about the different kinds of love that people experience and the kinds of influence that people exercise over others because of that love. Paternal, fraternal, trivial, passionate, displaced, controlling, submissive, enduring and others.
The movie does such a great job of showing the subtle but unmistakeable cues and miscues through which people communicate their emotions and how easy it is to ignore, misunderstand or totally miss those cues and outward expressions because of the influences of people who inject their prejudices into the mix.
It's also about the pride that keeps people from expressing those feelings that had they been expressed early and often, would have averted emotionally catastrophic eventualities.
It's about how two people can feel so drawn to each other in a supernatural way and yet be pulled apart and totally miss the mark because of misunderstandings, influence and lies.
Amanda asked about Mr. Darcy on several occasions. Why did he burst into the room that way? Why didn't he say anything? If he likes her, why doesn't he say so? The answer isn't always easy, but in real life, guys generally have too much pride to express their deepest emotions and are afraid to look weak. Yet, the subtle cues are almost always there, in the eyes.
Explaining it to Amanda, I found deeper and deeper meaning and relevance to my own life and experiences.
Highly recommended...
Even for guys.